Dr Franky Dolan replied to another blogger, a brave mom who wrote about the controversial topic of gender stereotyping.

A wonderful, brave woman named Mara contacted me recently, sharing her blog postings, hoping for a little feedback. This is a snip-bit of one of her entries...

Ungendered

Dear parents,
When you argue over whether or not it is acceptable to paint my son’s nails, or my 3 yo daughter’s for that matter, it kind of breaks my heart.

We’re stuck on nails? This is not make or break a childhood material. It simply is not. It’s a personal choice and pretty inconsequential at that.... Read the rest here.



This is my reply to her:


Mara,

I am crying. This post is the most beautiful and sincere post I have ever read on this subject.

 "I think I am raising a new kind of man." Mara. Beautiful.

I have a fierce fire in me, supporting every single word that you wrote here. What a smart, smart woman you are. Stand proud. Very proud. You are speaking truth and you are 100% correct in your parenting, leading with the love for your child. You don't lead with societal ideology, allowing it to dictate how you interact or care for your brilliantly creative child.

The way you explained your son, I had so many similar thoughts, feelings, inspirations inside of me as a little boy. I was lucky that my mother understood that gender confinement was cruel. My mother allowed me to play with dolls because it was what my instinct was telling me to do. It allowed me to learn very well developed social skills incredibly early. --Which, in turn, helped me to cope with the bullies of childhood, and now in adulthood. Dresses, pants, pink or blue. It is all natural to children. Which, by the way, blue was originally the color for girls, reflective of the sky and total purity. --That is why most traditional wedding dresses used to be blue as well. Almost never white. Pink used to be the color for boys, being that it was a lighter shade of the aggressive red color. ...It is all so ridiculous, and if we just take a step back, we can see that something so silly holds no real humane value. And yet, it often controls otherwise intelligent adults.

I have passionately studied human behavior, and learned a lot about how the human brain actively learns. I will end with this fact:
Babies naturally love those who care for them. They don't care about the color of skin or clothing, they don't care about the gender or the sexual orientation of the person caring for them. They just care that they are embraced and nurtured, allowed to safely explore their instincts and curiosities. That is not wrong. It is human.


Sending Love to you and your entire family,

Dr Franky Dolan

New Greeting / Note Cards, called Poetic Art Cards! By Dr Franky Dolan

They are here! We are now selling sets of cards and envelopes! Here is one example, About to Leap!

Get yours here:https://www.etsy.com/listing/155926369/5-cards-envelopes-set-about-to-leap

About Poetic Art Cards:

Dr Franky Dolan’s touching writing style has been published in numerous magazines, for his unique ability to provoke nostalgia and inspiration. He had a dream of creating these little cards, which can be shared abundantly, all for the purpose of lifting the heavy hearts of the world. He created an entire series of deeply beautiful poetic stories that accompany his original paintings and creations. Now, those powerful images and poetic stories come together in one easily shared package. These are much more than just simple greeting cards, they are true works of literature and visual art.

Each card is printed in a format that can be handled like beautiful little art prints, framed and hung on the wall; or they can be traded or shared like traditional cards. In order to maximize the flexibility of these cards, they come as a single sheet of glossy cardstock paper, like a postcard format. The backside has the accompanying poetic story, with enough open space for you to write your own little sweet notes to someone special. Complimentary crisp white envelopes are included for every card.

The cards measure a standard 5.5" by 4.25". ...What fun to have and to share these little magical works of art!



Dr Dolan's story, printed on this card, About To Leap:

Ever want so badly to believe in yourself, but you just couldn't? This image speaks to that moment just before you take that leap, once you have found the strength to believe in yourself. You can be brave, and you will be alright. We must take risks and believe that we can be great once we do. So take that leap of faith, you may just float.. and then fly...

This painting is for anyone who wants so badly to believe in themselves.... My friends, you can do it!

Sending Love,

Dr Franky Dolan